2005 will be remembered as the year of re-connection. No less than 25 people from my past re-surfaced this year. Some I’ve known since I was 6, others were friends in summer camp, middle school and college. The fact that all of these people should come back into my life within months of each other is a bit startling. Some I’ve searched for, some searched for me, and yet others’ contact information seemed to just fall in my lap. Some who I’ve tried to contact have been unreachable, and some who I’ve contacted will probably disappear again, the ties that once bound us together, no longer effective.
When I think about why some of these people disappeared from view, I think about my 20’s – a tumultuous time of disappointment, struggle, confusion, and exploration. More to the point – a time when I had enough of a challenge just hanging onto my self, let alone old friends.
One of the nicest surprises of connection is the chance to live the old saying that a friend is someone with whom a relationship can be easily re-kindled as if separation had never happened. Surreal is the best word that comes to mind as I found myself speaking with someone I hadn’t talked with in nearly 15 years. Echoes of who I was at that point in my life rang through and I felt the desire to show just how different I now am. Yet, how can I summarize 15 years of highs and lows?
Now the challenge of re-connection presents itself and the dawning realization that it actually might not occur with some, and the mystery of just how similar some of us are (despite years of change, not to our young selves, but how similar our paths have been and how similar we now are to each other) becomes the biggest surprise.