Yes, I’ll admit it, sometimes I’m a quitter. But recognizing the difference between “this just isn’t for me” and “I quit” (with a connotation of ‘giving up’) is no small feat. And when making a decision to keep something going vs ending something, recognizing valid reasons for continuation is just as challenging.
I mean, we could apply this line of thinking to everything from jobs, to relationships, to…exercise! And so this is what really gets me – I hate the idea of being a quitter, because it implies weakness, defeat, laziness, and feel free to insert your own adjectives [here]. But let’s face it, sometimes, we make decisions that might have had nothing but the best intentions, only to find that the actual “doing” is not at all to our liking. Maybe it doesn’t fit with the image of oursleves, maybe we foresee difficulties we hope to avoid, maybe we have other opportunities and so can’t carry out our original plans. Let’s face it, there are a thousand reasons to quit.
I often fear that my decision to quit, for example, a job, may be based on other weaknesses. For example, “I have no perseverance” or “I have a difficult time committing” and in an attempt to prove myself wrong, I continue. And though continuation will surely provide lessons for growth and learning, the question of “what else could I have done instead” always nags at me.
And so here I am on the brink of major commitments and tell myself that if I don’t like something – “If something just isn’t for me” – I can always quit. I just hope that at this point in my life I’ve made these decisions to commit with the right motives and a firm understanding of the paths I’ve agreed to travel. But as I so often say, “I’ll just never know until I try.”